Is effort admirable?

Where there is an effort, there was no intention. 

An intention is a spontaneous willingness to act, arising from feeling. An effort is an intellectual proposal, where the intellect says there is need to act in a certain manner whereas the heart is silent. 

The value of receiving anything in a relationship, be it words or action, lies in the heart innate in it. Let us never ask for an effort, because, if it has not come by itself, it will now come without heart. Whatever comes without asking is pure and accompanied by love, and is worth feeling grateful for.

Honesty and freedom

A relationship cannot have honesty and freedom at the same time. 

In a relationship, the expression of one person's feelings affects another. When there is such an effect, there is a lack of freedom. When, through a commitment to honesty, one person expresses, his/her feelings to the other, the other person is bound to feel pressurised to change his/her behaviour. 

If there is full honesty and full freedom at the same time, the people involved have, in fact, transcended the need for a relationship.